“Fela approached me for Marriage but I rejected his proposal” – Onyeka Onwenu
Veteran Nigerian singer, Onyeka Onwenu has revealed that Music legend, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti had approached her for marriage in the eighties but she rejected his proposal because of his other wives.
Onyeka revealed this in her new autobiography, titled My Father’s Daughter. According to her, she is a possessive lover and did not understand Fela’s love for women.
She wrote:
“The second time I saw Fela was in 1984, a few years after I had returned from the United States. He had just been released from jail.
“He was arrested for attempting to travel with his band for a gig in London with the sum of 1,600 pounds for their hotel accommodation. At the time, carrying any amount of foreign currency was against one of the many decrees promulgated by the Buhari/Idiagbon military junta.
“After he was released from prison, Fela sent a mutual friend, the journalist Onuorah Udenwa who is now a US-based pastor, to bring me to his club. I thought that he probably wanted to thank me for speaking up for him, but that was not it.
“He never even mentioned the article I had written in solidarity with him. Fela wanted to marry me, and I was flattered. I thanked him for the honour of wanting me to become his consort, but I turned him down all the same.”
The music legend added that while she waited at the club to see him, she noticed that his Queen (dancer-wives) had been looking at her with scorn.
“They passed by often, whispering comments about me. They were downright hostile and quite obvious about it.
“I pointed this out to him and told him that I was a possessive lover and would not be able to cope as an appendage to his harem but Fela laughed.”
This is serious.
It’s not bad Cha it depends on each other decision
You have the reason for not engaging him in the relationship and I hope you didn’t regret your attitude.
He already has many wives during that period, therefore, you justify your rejected.
Such is life and also it’s a matter of choice, once you don’t have the feeling for him, no qualms.
You really tried for him, may be that’s what motivated him to propose to you.
That is good for you…
Campaign after election…..keep that one to your self.
He who sold dig to buy monkey still have a four-legged animal in his house. You refused Fela because you’re a possesive lover and his wives were hostile to you. But you went ahead and married Sunny Ade who also have wives before you. Anyway, that bygone niw, you enjoyed your musical life as well as your polygamous life.. Women eh!