I apologize first to my husband after a disagreement – Nollywood actress, Funke Akindele
Funke Akindele-Bello, has given her fans an insight into the way her family works.
The ‘Omo Ghetto’ star revealed that during a disagreement with her husband, Abdulrasheed Bello, fondly called JJC Skillz, she is usually the first to apologise.
The actress who recently released her latest project, Omo Ghetto The Saga, made this statement during an interview session on the programme Your View which airs on TVC.
“When we have disagreements, I apologise first. You know me; it is mouth that I have. I will say everything and just let it go and my anger span is very short but Abdul’s own is longer, so, he takes his time before he gets angry. Abdul does not get angry easily, he takes things easy.
“And Abdul knows how to communicate better; so, if I am having issues with someone I am working with, I usually go and report the person to him. I ask him, ‘what do we do now because you know that I don’t know how to talk o.’ Then he tells me to calm down and goes to talk to the person,” the ace actress said.
The Jenifa’s Diary actress who co-produces most of her projects with her husband further spoke on their working relationship.
Akindele-Bello noted that she has the creative juice while her husband handles the technical aspect.
In her words, JJC Skillz is “very understanding and he is a very good man.”
She said, “For Abdul and me; I am the major producer, Abdul does not produce, he does not even like it. He is a director, he is so technical. I am very creative, he is very technical and he is very good.”
Giving a scenario as she mimicked her husband’s British accent, the diva said, “As a co-director with Abdul, if I do not want something, I tell him. Like I keep nagging, where is your shot list, where is your shot list? We have to get this shot list. I say it like two days before; I tell him let us talk about the shot list but he says, ‘Yo, Yo, I am coming.’ With his accent, but he has everything in his head. So, when we get to the set, I tell him what I want us to do but he will reply saying, ‘Yo, Yo see this place is small. We have to manage it’.
“I tell him, ‘Skillz, ma so be (don’t say so); let us do it from here.’ But he will say ‘Babe, please calm down, calm down.’ Sometimes I tell him, ‘Fi ooyinbo le, leave English’.”
Akindele-Bello described her husband as very understanding and a good man.
She added that she had learnt over the years to respect her partner no matter what.
“You should not command people to do things; you should communicate in a subtle way. You should not be defensive, you should not nag. So, I tell my husband things I do not like and he does so the same way,” Akindele-Bello stated.
that is good enough I believe a woman is supposed to apologize first to a man if he wants the marriage to work out properly as because she is subjected to her husband no wonder your marriage has lasted
Communication is the best answer for a good relationship……
That is what works for marriage, you don’t need to be longgerhead with your husband no matter what happened.
That’s what makes marriage Last long, once we understand each other their will be no issues that we won’t be able solve if the matter arises.
That’s how it ought to be, someone should be goat and another should be sheep if not things won’t go smoothly in the family. Kudos to you for doing so.
Those remaining women should emulate her for what she said, that’s good of her and she should continue to do so.
This is so good to hear. Every right thinking lady in a relationship should know that she should always beg his man after a quarrel
Waiting for the man to beg first might lead to a break up and this is not something any woman should ask for
That’s why your marriage is still intact.
Your apology shall be well accepted by your husband because you think fast.